Thank goodness for a book club! I keep reading good and challenging books because friends read with me. Last month, we read - Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
If you have already read Positive Intelligence, this book will be similar and a more challenging read. The writing is, unfortunately, academic and less memorable. Hard enough for me that I had to give up and finish via Blinkist.
Our brain saves all negative memories to keep us safe. "Negative contaminates positive more than positive purifies negative." As such, we need to work to store positive emotions and experiences. Profound learning that has stayed with me can be found in chapter 2, "The Power of Pain."
"We begin to thrive when positive moments outnumber negative ones by at least three-to-one ratio and ideally higher."
I started a habit with my daughter when she was young, naming five good things. I would suggest it any time my empathic body and mind could no longer take complaints and negativity. It was a mother's survival tactic. Little did I know that it helped her build positive experiences to counter the negative and build a healthier brain and a more positive view of the world.
If you are looking to further your learning about brain science and happiness, this book is a solid foundational option. I recommend reading this book before Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Charmin.
You can find this book at my favorite bookseller with the link above, or reach out to Gilbert and Ivy directly for a personal touch and extra help.
P.S. My five good things right now: the rain is helping our flowers to pop soon, I had a yummy breakfast, I have free time today to work as I wish, my daughter and I are walking and talking today despite the thousands of miles between us, and Finn, our Great Dane is nearby.